Happy beginning :)

There is a marriage hall across my office. As with every other marriage hall in the country, this one is also booked almost on all days. I seriously wonder these days, if this can be the best investment. Build a marriage hall and customers will come to you. What more do you want :)

Anyway, today as I was crossing the hall, I saw a girl with teary eyes come out with a few relatives. I could not help stopping myself for a few seconds. I so dearly wanted to give her a tight hug and say – "Do not worry dear. You are not losing anyone. You are going to add a few wonderful people to your world. Life will be happier."

Have you seen the Tamil film "Mouna Ragam"? It is one of my favorite films. I would have watched it over 50 times. There is a scene where Mohan, the hero says,

"குழந்தை ஏன் அழுதுட்டே பிறக்குது தெரியுமா? இந்த உலகத்துக்கு வர பிடிகாம இல்லே, புது இடம் புது மனுஷங்க அதனால"

[Translation: "Do you know why a new born baby cries? Not because it does not want to come to this world. Because the place, surroundings and the people are new."]

I am sure anyone listening to these words, will feel much better about the change. That's the power of words. A few positive words at the right time can bring the much needed comfort.

So, my question is – What will be your words to the newly married girl / boy?

I would say – "You are going to share your life with him/her. It will be beautiful. Spread love and affection and you will get it back. Also, if there is any misunderstanding, don't regret. Misunderstandings are needed to understand a person better. Live life happily. God bless!"

But in reality what do we say?

• "From now on, he is everything for you. Whatever happens, be patient. Even if someone hurt you, don't reply. Ensure you respect your husband and his parents. Behave properly so that they are happy."
  

Isn't this a negative thought? Why cannot we give him/her the confidence that life will be happier and marriage is truly a bliss?

2008 - Hard teacher

When I got married this year, I never thought marriage will bring such a change to my personality.

I am a true Virgo who believes in perfection. I expect everyone to work at my pace and at my quality. I just can't accept any work as completed until I know there is very little to improve. I never accepted ignorance as an excuse for uncompleted work.

Then marriage happened. As it goes, it brought not just two people but two families together. I understood that every person in this world is different and its foolish to expect people to be the same. It was not easy though. With the level of perfection I believed in, and the values that I followed, it was difficult to live with a different set of values and beliefs.

Thankfully, I got an opportunity to be alone for a couple of weeks because of my official work and that is when I had time to look back at the happenings. I had the maturity to easily find where I was going wrong. I just had to appreciate that, the way we live and the values we believe in, are based on how we are brought up.

I understood that "Marriage is two halves making the whole rather than one half trying to make the other half a replica of itself".

Bindhu!!