Two recent incidents have really shaken me. I am really shocked at things happening around me.
Have you seen the film Kadhal Parisu in Tamil starring Kamal, Ambika and Radha? For people who have not seen the film, here is a brief of one of the scenes of the film. Ambika and Kamal are classmates. Ambika has a crush on Kamal and during one of their college trips, Raj mixes some drugs in Ambika’s drinks and has sex with her. Ambika thinks it was Kamal and develops hatred towards him.
How will you react if I tell you that this has happened to one of my distant relatives? Let’s call her P. So, this guy (Let’s call him X) who was her college mate had a crush on her and proposes to P. P denies it saying her family is of most importance to her and she will marry the person that her parents choose. They attend a farewell party of another friend in a hotel. During that party, X has mixed something in P’s drinks and god knows what happened. And one fine day, P informs her parents that she wants to marry X. Her parents oppose it vehemently because he is not well educated and is from a different case. A few days later P writes a letter to her parents saying that circumstances have forced her to marry X and asking them to forgive her.
I just can’t believe that something like this is actually happening in this society. I still can not accept the fact that she has actually married him, married someone who has actually cheated her. I do not know what forced her to do it. The family is shattered. I just can’t see her fathers face. He is a very jovial person by nature. I can’t even imagine the fact that he cried badly.
V is my cousin. She completed her engineering and is working for a MNC. She lives outside India and is earning well. She is in love and wants to marry a person from another caste. Though I have always supported people in love, some of her dialogues just makes me wonder if she is actually in love.
She says she can not marry someone from our caste because she wants to wear western clothes, move around the world and can not follow our traditions and hence wants to marry this guy, whom she knows from college days and she thinks he will always be in her control.
Her mom is still very traditional and just can not accept that such things are happening to her. She is losing her self-control. Again, I feel bad for her.
Is this love? You do not want to marry someone from your caste and hence choose someone who will say yes to all your needs.
When such incidents happened with others, I guess it was easy for me to ignore. But when things happen in close quarters and you know the persons involved, it just hurts badly.
What kind of society do we live in? I am just shocked. And to think I have brought a child into this kind of world worries me.
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Have you seen the film Kadhal Parisu in Tamil starring Kamal, Ambika and Radha? For people who have not seen the film, here is a brief of one of the scenes of the film. Ambika and Kamal are classmates. Ambika has a crush on Kamal and during one of their college trips, Raj mixes some drugs in Ambika’s drinks and has sex with her. Ambika thinks it was Kamal and develops hatred towards him.
How will you react if I tell you that this has happened to one of my distant relatives? Let’s call her P. So, this guy (Let’s call him X) who was her college mate had a crush on her and proposes to P. P denies it saying her family is of most importance to her and she will marry the person that her parents choose. They attend a farewell party of another friend in a hotel. During that party, X has mixed something in P’s drinks and god knows what happened. And one fine day, P informs her parents that she wants to marry X. Her parents oppose it vehemently because he is not well educated and is from a different case. A few days later P writes a letter to her parents saying that circumstances have forced her to marry X and asking them to forgive her.
I just can’t believe that something like this is actually happening in this society. I still can not accept the fact that she has actually married him, married someone who has actually cheated her. I do not know what forced her to do it. The family is shattered. I just can’t see her fathers face. He is a very jovial person by nature. I can’t even imagine the fact that he cried badly.
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V is my cousin. She completed her engineering and is working for a MNC. She lives outside India and is earning well. She is in love and wants to marry a person from another caste. Though I have always supported people in love, some of her dialogues just makes me wonder if she is actually in love.
She says she can not marry someone from our caste because she wants to wear western clothes, move around the world and can not follow our traditions and hence wants to marry this guy, whom she knows from college days and she thinks he will always be in her control.
Her mom is still very traditional and just can not accept that such things are happening to her. She is losing her self-control. Again, I feel bad for her.
Is this love? You do not want to marry someone from your caste and hence choose someone who will say yes to all your needs.
When such incidents happened with others, I guess it was easy for me to ignore. But when things happen in close quarters and you know the persons involved, it just hurts badly.
What kind of society do we live in? I am just shocked. And to think I have brought a child into this kind of world worries me.
speechless, after reading the first one. things like that really happen? dont know what to say :( i feel sorry for her and i can only hope she finds happiness in her decision somehow (i really dont know how).
ReplyDeletesecond one - i know people who get married for all the wrong reasons too. and no matter how much we try to tell them, they wont see it for now. they wont see it until it's a little too late :(
one friend got married to a girl because she was the good looking of all the other girls that he'd seen till then. his reasoning was - 'i've seen photos of many girls till now and none of them good looking. this one is, so im going to say ok because what if no one else who is as good looking comes along?' - how do you react to something like that? it's one thing to like someone based on their photograph...but making up your mind to marry that person without interacting much with them is just something i cant understand.
another person i know got so excited that a girl his parents found was a crazy SRK fan...he's a big fan too and the fact that she was head over heels for SRK was the winning point in him saying ok to her. yupe.
and both of these people are the ones that now tell me 'stay single for as long as yu can and enjoy your life. marriage isn't all that fun.'
@T - Oh man... Choosing a partner based on bollywood preference... This nation truly has some weird species, I guess... :)))
ReplyDeleteHello, came for a quick dekho. You will raise your kid just fine - dats all I can say ;). Cheers
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