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Today’s updates are:

• There were more than 10 parents who came after me for the therapy session, out of which there was just one girl child. I wonder if doctors have separate criteria for boys and girls. Because girls are normally fast in achieving milestones. So, may be doctors need to be more patient with boys.

• The receptionist listens to radio while working, which is fine if she could use the ear-phones. Why does she want to play radio in speaker mode? To entertain us? Uff….

• This hospital resembles of a government hospital because they still WRITE in a diary the amount received for the day… No computers at all.

If you have come so far, then can you guess why am I making these random updates? Yeah, you are right. Today, I was stopped right at the door.

The trainer took AK inside and asked me to wait outside. I was standing outside the door for a few minutes and I could hear AK shouting for something. I was sure he will not cry. Someone who has not really cried much in 1.5 years, can not cry in an hour, isn’t it? But I knew, if he gets irritated he will start throwing things around him. Then another lady came told me to wait in the lobby. So, I had no clue what was happening inside. After an hour, the trainer brings him outside and my boy looks at me, ignores me and wants to go inside and play with toys. The trainer told me that today he was able to sit at one place for 15 minutes.

I think I can predict what is going to happen a year later. First day of school will see him just jumping to his class once he sees other children and the teacher will ask me to go back and I will cry outside the school door…

Happy playing my boy! Have fun!!! (let me also add, I did not have fun looking at his reaction…. Hmpf!)

Test for trainer’s patience

I loved the session today!!! AK tested the trainer’s patience. He was just not interested in any of the toys she showed and went to pick other toys. At one point, she raised her voice and AK gave one look and came to me.

She then decided to take all the toys and AK to a room and asked me to wait outside. Even in the room, he was more interested in looking out for new things in the room. Finally, the trainer was successful in making him sit down and helped him play with a few toys.

You want to know why I loved the session? Every time I raise my voice or hit him mildly when he does some mischief (how about playing with electrical sockets? or how about finding out how the fridge operates by researching the back-side of the fridge? or when he throws all his toys to all four corners of the room), he will just give a look and move on. No tears or tantrums. I used to wonder if he is ignoring me… Today I got the answer. He is not partial, he ignores everyone’s commands. Good. I have a real tough-nut at home.

First Kiss...

I got my first kiss today! (Do I need to mention from whom it was??? Anyway, in case you thought of anyone other than my son, I will be doubly delighted… he he) Well… It was not actually a kiss. I was playing with him by making sounds on his stomach. He was very happy and was laughing so much. Suddenly, he hugged me and licked my cheek. I think that is his version of kiss… (My boy, I think you made a mistake by kissing me first. I will keep reminding you for the rest of your life that I was the first girl you kissed. :) )

In other news, I re-read my last post and realized one major mistake that I have done. AK is diagnosed with mild ADHD. I missed the word mild. What a big mistake! Today, I took him for the therapy session and he responded well… He still does not play with a toy for more than 2 minutes but in general played with all the toys for close to 20-25 minutes. The psychologist told me that his eye-contact is much better than the first day.

At home also, I can feel the differences. If I say hello and give him my hand and shake it before right in front of his eyes, he holds my hand in response sometimes. Earlier, he just ignored my commands. I do not know if it is because of the conscious effort put in by me and MIL or it is just happening naturally. Whatever may be the reason, I hope the progress continues.

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While typing the first paragraph on kiss, I remembered the incident that happened on Valentines day. It was a normal day for me and I went to office, finished my work and left office at around 5 p.m. I was waiting for lift to come down. When the lift opened, there was only one guy inside and he was smiling at me. His smile was so bright and I just had to respond. I then entered the lift and stood such that he was behind me. I was wondering what made him smile. When the lift reached ground floor, I came out first and the guy followed me and then overtook me and was walking as if he is controlling not to run. The smile was still present on his face. And then at the gate, I saw a girl with a bunch of roses. The guy went to her, hugged her for a few seconds and then they kept looking in to each other’s eyes. A minute later they realized the surroundings and walked hand-in-hand.

There was bright smile in my face and I stopped an auto and the autowala smiled at me. :) That’s the power of love, isn’t it?

Good night folks!

What a hectic week it was!!!

Last week could easily be described as the most stressful week I had. This is what happened…

On Saturday, I went to give the usual vaccination to my baby. I told my pediatrician that my boy (lets call him AK from now on… I realized that I have never referred to my baby in blogworld with a name. How stupid can I be!!!) does not speak in words yet and also does not respond when his name is called… That triggered everything. Since all along, his milestones were delayed the pediatrician asked me to take AK to a neurologist so that we can get an analysis done. He wanted to check if AK had attention deficit disorder. So, I fixed an appointment on Wednesday with the neurologist.

On Wednesday I go to the neurologist hospital only to see babies and children with various physical ailments. God, it was tough - To see such babies and their parents and also the doubt that whatif something is wrong with my child. The doctor thought AK was hyperactive and wanted to get an EEG done. The technician asked us to bath the baby in the hospital with a shampoo since EEG requires that the hair should be free of oil. It was already 2 p.m. We decided to come the next day to take the EEG.

On Thursday, we went to take the EEG. While waiting I realized what EEG was. They place various sensors in baby’s head and try to record the brain’s signals. It was just tough to see AK with so many sensors attached to his head. Though I think I put up a strong face before my MIL and my husband because they were almost in shock, I was crying inside. An hour or so later the doctor saw the report and confirmed my baby has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder). It means he does not concentrate on what is happening around him. His concentration level is low and his hand-eye coordination is poor. The doctor suggested an ayurvedic tablet for two months and asked me to take AK to a psychologist. I met the psychologist the same day and she wanted me to come the next day.

On Friday, the meeting with psychologist happened. She observed my kid and then confirmed the things that doctor had told me. She said I need to bring AK to her for a month of infant stimulation therapy, which will help him in concentrating more. The therapy actually involves making the baby play with a few toys so that he can sit at one place for some time. This is the first step which will improve concentration. Then there is visual stimulation in which the baby follows various light sources. Then they leave the baby to play for a few minutes in bed surrounded by balls.

I took AK for the therapy on Saturday and he seemed to like it. The psychologist also asked me to do the same things at home. I will have to make him sit at one place for 5 minutes every half-an-hour which is a challenge given that he does not play with any toy for more than a minute. She also asked me to change AK’s attention in case he looks at the floor for long time. Simple things like that had to be taken care.

Which means I have to just be with him and take care of him 24 hours. So, I have taken a break for one month from office. I totally appreciate the kind souls at office who understood my situation immediately and granted me leave without many questions. So, from tomorrow I am at home. I plan to record the happenings of the next one month daily so that I have clarity on what exactly is happening. So, you can expect a post everyday…

I have so much more to say. But since post is already long, I will take those to the next post.

Finally, my heartfelt thanks to all those who extended your support in last post! God bless you all…

Good night

Unexpected turn of events….

One full month of 2012 has gone by and much advertised Valentines’s day is around the corner and I have not written one single post this year. I have my own reasons….I wanted the first post of this year to be an achievement – completion of first goal for the year!!!! So, I waited and waited and just when I was about to write a post saying “Goal 1 accomplished”, life pulls me down with yet another challenge…

Last year was so difficult on me. My baby was my biggest support. His smile always relaxed me and helped me set my priorities right. But now, my biggest support is becoming my weakness….

Life is so unpredictable… May Lord give me strength.